Shame is a Powerful Emotion

By Donna M.

Shame a painful and powerful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.  Shame is a powerful, painful and potentially dangerous emotion that often plays an important role in substance use and a host of other personal and social problems.

Shame seems to attach to parents who have a child in active addiction and their child; because shame is a condition of disgrace or dishonor.  Shame is caused by a pubic arrest notice, where the public can scrutinize and criticize a person; it’s when a person or a situation draws attention to something someone has done.

Shame is attached to drug or alcohol abuse and families realize quickly that even though they may have support, they are up against the stigma of a disease that is highly criticized and misunderstood.

When you have feelings of shame that surface, replace them with compassion, empathy and acceptance for yourself and your child. Acknowledge the negative feelings, but remind yourself that you can get through them by attending Parents Sharing Without Shame’s Support group meeting private counseling, praying, journaling and taking care of yourself.

This new perspective will help you to heal. The positive shift in your thinking will move you forward so that you feel better and are able to release any and all feelings associated with shame. 

                                               Shame doesn’t serve you, let it go!

“Shame is the most disturbing experience individuals ever have about themselves; no other emotion feels more deeply disturbing because in the moment of shame the self feels wounded from within. ~ Gershan Kaufman

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